Ray Rice got a 2-game suspension for knocking his then-fiancee Janay out cold and uncaringly standing over her motionless body before dragging her out of the elevator. He later on gets suspended only after the video surfaces online. How many years did Michael Vick get for dog fighting?…
The NFL acts like having players rock pink for the whole month of October means they really care about women. Nah them mofos just like rocking pink and clearing names.
Why is he not in jail?
We begin to find and become ourselves when we notice how we are already found, already truly, entirely, wildly, messily, marvelously who we were born to be. The only problem is that there is also so much other stuff, typically fixations with how people perceive us, how to get more of the things that we think will make us happy, and with keeping our weight down. So the real issue is how do we gently stop being who we aren’t? How do we relieve ourselves of the false fronts of people-pleasing and affectation, the obsessive need for power and security, the backpack of old pain, and the psychic Spanx that keeps us smaller and contained?
Here’s how I became myself: mess, failure, mistakes, disappointments, and extensive reading; limbo, indecision, setbacks, addiction, public embarrassment, and endless conversations with my best women friends; the loss of people without whom I could not live, the loss of pets that left me reeling, dizzying betrayals but much greater loyalty, and overall, choosing as my motto William Blake’s line that we are here to learn to endure the beams of love.